Elizabeth Names Her Son

This is my son John.
In summer, he will wear a buffalo robe,
or bury himself in an anorak or a ski-jacket,
snow pants and a hat with ear flaps.
In winter he’ll walk naked.
His skin will be blue.
When he’s out in the wilderness
he might sit on a pole,
or roll himself up like a hedgehog
and live in a tree.
He might insist on being walled up
in a church or a tomb.
People will come from all around
to hear his raw visions of winnowing forks.
He’ll appease our lust for divisions.
In all ways he’ll be wrong
when he describes his divine cousin.
He’ll wear the face paint of a clown.
No one will know him without feeling eerie,
as if chaos is a bee in his mouth,
as if God is a flood as well as a season,
an earthquake and the waxing of the moon.
My child, O my child,
you will live such foolish truth.
Cry out the dangers that shadow our safety,
become the poet of the shrouded dooms
that hide within our complacency.
God chose you to say this to the world —
we will always need strangers
to judge us and love us.
We will always need gooseflesh,
the pinprick of the uncanny,
the locust mystery, the bizarre, the unearthly.
We will always need some raw character
to wave at us from a river. We will always grieve
when our children become strangers.

Illumination

About a decade ago Steven Charleston, the Bishop of Alaska, wrote a remarkable book. Charleston is a member of the Choctaw Nation, and his book, The Four Vision Quests of Jesus, reflects on the life of Christ in terms of what he calls the Native Covenant. He understands Native culture as a text that Jesus speaks into, in the same way that Jesus’s life and teachings spoke into and out of the text of the Hebrew Scriptures. This is a wonderful and liberating claim. For a long time I’ve insisted, along with many others, that a Christian must read and draw lessons from the “book of the world” as well as from scripture. Charleston takes this claim further. Culture, he says, is always a text that Jesus interacts with, and a culture’s understanding of Jesus illuminates the Gospels as powerfully as the epistles, the psalms, the prophets, wisdom literature, apocalyptic books, and the Torah do.
Part of the Native Covenant that Charleston brings to his reading of the Gospels is an understanding of necessary strangeness. Whether they admit or not, every culture has a deep need for strangeness. In Christian history, many figures have arisen who have intentionally estranged themselves from the world around them. In the 5th century, a man named Simeon lived on a pole near the Syrian city of Aleppo and was given the nickname of Stylites. In the 12th century the Belgian mystic Christina the Astonishing lived in trees and rolled herself up like a hedgehog to sleep. In the 13th century the Italian mystic Angela of Foligno would scream in church and block doorways as she stood frozen in place, weeping over the sacred mysteries. There are many, many other examples, including St. Francis, who was treated as a stranger both by his society and by the order he founded.
Bishop Charleston points out the idea of necessary strangeness was more easily accepted and venerated in Native tradition than in European Christendom. He writes about two types of necessary strangers, the koshares who lived among the peoples of the southwest and the heyokas of the Plains peoples. Both were clowns, people who played important cultural roles and were welcomed because of their differences. Koshares would interrupt dance ceremonies with provocative, scatological, and even lewd behavior. Their actions would “break the barriers of convention and…fracture (sic) the religious perceptions of the participants.” They would shock people out of their ordinary conceptions and deepen religious experience by introducing a necessary sense of chaos to ritual. Heyokas served a similar purpose, but in everyday life. They were “contraries,” people who deliberately did “the opposite of the expected.” On hot days they wore the warmest clothes, and on cold days they went naked. They walked and rode horses backwards. They sometimes wore the clothing of the opposite gender. Their actions and choices exposed the dualities that are present within day to day existence.
John the Baptist clowned in a similar way. He wasn’t much of a prophet, since his predictions didn’t come true. He spoke of winnowing forks and divisions, and claimed that the Messiah would burn “the chaff” away in an unquenchable fire. Yet Jesus, in his ministry, spent most of his time among those who might be considered “chaff,” his society’s unloved and unwanted. His life on earth didn’t end with a grand and dramatic threshing, and for two thousand years some churches have spent a lot of time wondering why all the people they don’t like are still allowed to live in the world. They want the threshing and divisions, but Christ seems very reluctant to get around to winnowing people. Yet if the Baptist wasn’t a prophet, then what was he?
If we accept him as a clown, we can name him as a stranger rather than a prophet. He isn’t there in the story to make profound predictions. He’s there to make things weird.
In a wonderful passage, Charleston speaks of John’s embodiment of the “chaos of God:”

(The chaos of God) is earthly, seminal, disruptive, and energetic. It weaves through a more stately ceremonial of evolution, like strands of DNA, holding life together, but always capable of producing the unexpected. Sacred clowns are the electric energy that arises when order meets chaos. They are spiritual synapses, firing off the creative power between life and death. They stand in exactly the same place John the Baptist occupies by the banks of the Jordan, with one foot in life and the other in destruction. John’s call to repentance is more than a call to change. It is a call to face the reality of existence, the exact point where to be and not to be meet.

John is a liminal figure, standing on the border of the possible. He creates a contrast with Christ. As Charleston puts it, John “paint(s) the background so the figure in the foreground may stand out even more clearly.” This is what strangers and strangeness always do. With their strangeness, they bring the expected into high relief. Because of their chaos, we come to understand the ways we order our life. It’s part of why the church tolerated and even celebrated people like Christina the Astonishing and Simeon Stylites. Every group and society needs a critique of their idea of order.
An argument could be made that Jesus, also, is very strange. Those who opposed him found him chaotic. He came to disrupt the corrupt and indecent orderliness of his time. He works to disrupt the unjust and venal orderliness of our time. John doesn’t quite describe Jesus’s strangeness correctly, but he is right to claim that Jesus is strange. Christ’s strangeness has more to do with embracing rejected people than it does with the winnowing fork and the unquenchable fire. But, as the Gospel story will go on to prove, both kinds of strangeness are dangerous to the authorities.

Both John and Jesus had mothers, and Luke spends a good amount of time on these mothers in the first few chapters of his Gospel. Later poetry and song will go much further in elaborating on Mary’s life, describing moments when she celebrates and mourns for her son. I wanted to do the same for Elizabeth. In my poem, I present her as someone who sees and understands her son, and the role he will play. In the last line, I hope that her grief is clear as well. It is part of the grief of all parents, but amplified. All parents know that our children will come to live inner and outer lives that have little to do with us. We will become at least a little bit estranged through no fault of our own, and no fault of our children. Can we see past this grief to the great revelations that our children’s strangenesses offer to us? Can we celebrate the ways that they reveal the contrasts and dualities of our lives?

“A Psalm” by Thomas Merton

A friend asked me for my definition of hope, and I found myself talking about covenant. Hope is the love of neighbor and the world that keeps you going, despite all of the reasons for despair. During an interfaith panel that I sat on a student asked how the panelists different traditions maintained hope in the midst of political conflict, war, and climate change. I found myself talking about the eschaton. I said that Christians make a huge claim when we say that we know the end of the story. We believe that Christ will come again in great glory to judge the living and the dead. We believe that the story of humanity on this earth has a meaning that will be revealed at Christ’s coming. I also said that while I yearn to learn that meaning, I am afraid of the end of the world, and am in no hurry to get to the eschaton. I live in the tension of loving the world and grounding my hope in that love, while at the same time being reconciled to the notion that many things are beyond my control, and that the love of God will be made most plain at the end of all that we know.

Merton’s poem speaks directly to this tension. At the beginning of the poem, a psalm leads him into a revery of love:

New eyes awaken.
I send Love’s name into the world with wings
And songs grow up around me like a jungle.
Choirs of all creatures sing the tunes
Your Spirit played in Eden.

But it is a brief revery. Soon, in his imagination, the universe dies of excellence. All of that beauty, all of the singing of zebras and antelopes and birds of paradise lead these creatures, and Merton, into communion with God. As if, for him, it is the very love of the world that leads us beyond it.

The stanzas that follow describe the eschaton:

Sun, moon and stars
Fall from their heavenly towers.
Joys walk no longer down the blue world’s shore.

Though fires loiter, lights still fly on the air of the gulf,
All fear another wind, another thunder:
Then one more voice
Snuffs all their flares in one gust.

This is not a reassuring vision of the parousia. Not a painting of a renaissance Christ descending on a cloud. The destruction is real, the abandonment of joy is real, the fear is real, and the end is real. But the poet makes a claim for continued existence:

And I go forth with no more wine and no more stars
And no more buds and no more Eden
And no more animals and no more sea:

While God sings by himself in acres of night
And walls fall down, that guarded Paradise.

That “I” is important. Wine-less, starless, exiled from growing things and gardens, from animals and oceans, the person persists. If it is an “I”, a person, who falls into a trance at the beginning of the poem, it is that same person who enters paradise through fallen walls. The person who loves is the person who will be judged worthy of eternity.

Is that the way out of the tension that I feel? To go further into love of neighbor, of family, of the world as a whole, and trust that such love will be what remains of me at the ending? Is hope the covenant that draws us into heaven? Merton attests that it is. I try to love that vision enough that I can believe it, and set my fear aside.

Here is the poem in its entirety:

A Psalm

by Thomas Merton

When psalms surprise me with their music
And antiphons turn to rum
The Spirit sings: the bottom drops out of my soul.

And from the center of my cellar, Love, louder than thunder
Opens a heaven of naked air.

New eyes awaken.
I send Love's name into the world with wings
And songs grow up around me like a jungle.
Choirs of all creatures sing the tunes
Your Spirit played in Eden.
Zebras and antelopes and birds of paradise
Shine on the face of the abyss
And I am drunk with the great wilderness
Of the sixth day in Genesis.

But sound is never half so fair
As when that music turns to air
And the universe dies of excellence.

Sun, moon and stars
Fall from their heavenly towers.
Joys walk no longer down the blue world's shore.

Though fires loiter, lights still fly on the air of the gulf,
All fear another wind, another thunder:
Then one more voice
Snuffs all their flares in one gust.

And I go forth with no more wine and no more stars
And no more buds and no more Eden
And no more animals and no more sea:

While God sings by himself in acres of night
And walls fall down, that guarded Paradise.

A CREED IN SANTA CRUZ

Published in Foreshadow Magazine on July 7, 2025: https://www.foreshadowmagazine.com/magazine/a-creed-in-santa-cruz.

Illumination

A year after my mother’s death, we went to visit my brothers in Santa Cruz during the week after Christmas. Ohio was cold and snowy, and California was vibrant with life. Little pools of water along the shore line were rich with creatures and color. We went whale watching. We hiked along the bluffs. We looked down at seals who were resting under the piers.

On Sunday, I went alone to church in a little seaside chapel. It was the church of my tradition, with an Episcopal eye for beauty in the arrangement of the sanctuary, and an Episcopal ear for beauty in the words of the prayer book. When we stood for the Creed, I found myself saying it for the first time in a year. And I had a sense that the strangers in that little room had held it for me, that they had been waiting for the moment when they could give it back to me.

I have long-held suspicions about community. I have been hurt by community, rejected by it, required to prove myself within it. There have been times when I’ve disliked and avoided it. But on that Sunday morning, I understood part of its power. It was able to hold my beliefs, even when I could not, and return them to me when I was ready.

Sometimes A Radiant World

Published in Foreshadow Magazine, July 8, 2025: https://www.foreshadowmagazine.com/magazine/sometimes-a-radiant-world

Illumination

If we are Christ’s body, we must accept all of the aches and pains, the sleepiness, the sloth, the injury, the activity that is part of any form of embodiment. Just as we do not yet live within our resurrected bodies, the embodied community is not free of the effects of living in this world. We do not live in radiance, but love can, occasionally, make us feel as if we do. Whispers of resurrection sound through our lives. Sunlight, glinting off of some moment, envelopes us in the face of Christ.
To love is to notice. To live in a loving community is to be aware of foibles and failures, and also to note small graces and beauty. We hear each other’s histories, capture small facts. Moments of our friends’ lives that we weren’t present for live within our memories. We know each other through stories, but also through the idiosyncratic gesture of a hand, the twitch of a mouth, the carefulness of a step. So much remains unknown. So much about even the people we love best remains a mystery. So much about ourselves.

We are both in the mosaic, one of its tesserae, and outside of it, observing it, studying every piece of glass. It is fragile, but set in mortar, hard to shatter, ready to last for centuries, if history allows it to. The body of Christ that we inhabit is even more durable. Not permanent, as nothing in this world is permanent, but, because its Christ’s body, ordained to last forever.

To You Be Your Way, and To Me Mine

A few weeks ago, I received a Chick tract in the mail. It was delivered to my home in a handwritten envelope with no return address. The little booklet inside contained a smug, homophobic comic in which Jesus was portrayed as offering love through the medium of hate. One of my colleagues at St. Stephen’s also received one of these tracts, and he said that he had at first recycled it, then decided that recycling was too good for it and put it in the garbage. I kept the one that was sent to me so that I could report it to the post office if this harassment continued.

On the following Sunday, a man approached me as I was returning from my weekly donut run between services. “You’re not going to like this,” he said. I’d been curious about this man, who is a gifted musician and had taken to playing the piano in the sanctuary on Sunday mornings, but never stayed for the services. This behavior wasn’t that unusual, as many people have been harmed by the church, and are negotiating their involvement in the light of that past harm. I had supposed that this man might, at some moment, decide that a church service was a safe place for him.
Then he handed me a handwritten note that he intended to send to our new bishop. The note attacked queerness and LGBTQiA+ people using all of the same tired tropes that I’ve heard throughout my career, and that had been present in the Chick tract. It included a demand that we take down the Pride banner from in front of our sanctuary. I read it and said, “You’re right, I don’t like it.” But I tried to engage my curiosity rather than my offense and asked, “Why did you feel the need to write it?”

“That banner doesn’t represent me,” he said.

“Well,” I told him, “it represents the people here.” I offered him a donut and invited him to stay for the service. He took the donut and left.

A week later, he sent a photo of the note to the bishop and to our parish office. I’ve been keeping a careful eye on our Pride banner, especially as there are increased reports of banners being torn down around the Columbus metropolitan area. In addition to the Chick tract and to this man’s note, the church has received a voicemail denouncing our LGBTQiA+ affirming ethic, and so we are necessarily on guard against harassment and vandalism.

I haven’t been able to stop thinking about the man’s comment that the Pride banner doesn’t represent him. We are an inclusive church, and so it rankles when the bounds of our inclusivity are tested. I think I was right to invite him to stay for the service. But if he had stood up in the midst of the service and started shouting out his views, I would have had to counter him, and to enforce the boundaries that keep queer people safe. Still, Paul’s words in First Corinthians echo in my mind: “The eye cannot say to the hand, ‘I don’t need you!’ And the head cannot say to the feet, ‘I don’t need you!’” As do the words of Jesus in Matthew’s Gospel: “But I say to you that if you are angry with a brother or sister, you will be liable to judgment; and if you insult a brother or sister, you will be liable to the council; and if you say, ‘You fool,’ you will be liable to the hell of fire.”

I have been wrestling with the question of how I can believe so deeply in love and interconnectedness, and still want nothing to do with the attitudes that this man, and the others who have been harassing us, have articulated. We can say that “all people are welcome here but all behaviors are not,” and sometimes we have to say it, but it feels perilously close to “hate the sin and love the sinner.” In some churches, a queer person might be told that their presence is welcome but that their expression of queerness is not.

On Tuesday night, I attended the Interfaith Pride Service at Stonewall Columbus 1 with all of these thoughts rolling around in my mind. It was a beautiful service. The music was good, the speakers were funny and vulnerable and wholly themselves, the prayers and scripture passages from the different faiths were powerful. And two of the speakers really helped me come to a new understanding. Mounir Lynch, reflecting on identity and pride in Islam, quoted the Quran: “To you be your way, and to me mine.” For Mounir, this indicates that we can be responsible for the things we are responsible for, without needing the approval of those who have chosen other areas of responsibility and work. Reflecting on this, I came again to the realization that a church doesn’t have to be all things to all people. Our work at St. Stephen’s is to embrace and participate in theologies and spiritualities of liberation. It’s not like there aren’t plenty of other churches that understand their work differently. But Christianity has a complex history of orthodoxy, of really wishing that everyone would just think and act the same. I know that this wish is a legacy of Christendom, but it is deeply ingrained. To truly think in terms of a diverse, multifaceted, multi-vocal and multifocal body of Christ is challenging when you’ve been brought up in a tradition that has been so invested in being systemized, hierarchical, and controlling. And yet it’s so freeing to realize that I don’t actually have to engage with the arguments of others. I can simply say, “to you be your way, and to me mine.”

The other helpful piece of wisdom came from Glenn Ge Jie Gustafson, a Zen priest. Glenn told us that “we can acknowledge our interconnection and choose not to interact with those who would disparage or attack us.” This is so simple and so true, and yet I find it very easy to forget. When I breathe or drink I partake in air and water that has passed through other people’s bodies, and is indifferent to their political beliefs. I can catch a cold from a bigot and receive a blood transfusion from a racist. I do not demand to know the politics of those who cook in restaurants or stock grocery shelves. I am connected with all of these people through myriad systems, and I am grateful for the things they provide to me, as I hope they are grateful for the things I provide. That doesn’t mean I have to be friendly and accepting, let alone lovingly attentive, if they decide to spew hate.

All this has led me to reexamine one of my central, faith-based ideals. I have spent my life hoping for the Kin-dom of God, and trying to act in ways that will help bring it about. I have imagined it in terms taken from Isaiah: “The wolf will live with the lamb, the leopard will lie down with the goat, the calf and the lion and the yearling together; and a little child will lead them.” Or through the parables of Jesus, as a mustard tree that all the birds can nest in. Yet there has been a subtext to my dreaming. Without realizing it, I have imagined the Kin-dom as a place where the wolf, lamb, leopard, and goat all agree with each other, where the birds are all singing the same song. Queer theology is teaching me many things, among them the flaw in this way of thinking. Perhaps in the Kin-dom the wolf is still a wolf and the lamb is still a lamb, and they treat each other with a kind of Ignatian indifference, not threatening each other with violence but also saying to each other “to you be your way, and to me mine.”

Of course, as my friend Ben points out, the wolf neither hates nor is motivated by hate when it eats kills and eats the lamb. In this world, I feel that I must stand up to hate as a person of conscience. When I’ve done so in the past, it’s been with a sense of grief, and perhaps that grief is appropriate. Why can’t we all just get along? Why must I feel anger, however justified, when I really want to love and live in a love-world? These questions still rankle, and are, perhaps, unresolvable. Yet I find hope in realizing that I can creatively choose my moments of engagement or non-engagement, and that I am not responsible for everyone’s sense of belonging.

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